This week we talked about preparing for marriage and falling in love. There were many things that opened up my mind on this topics so bare with me as I try to convey my thought.
We learned about the Know-Quo in dating. Together (a wide variety of shared activities) + Talk (mutual self-disclosure) + Time = The Know-Quo Together. While dating if we are going on a variety of dates, participating in different activities, we are able to see that person in different areas and how they may react to different situations. When my husband and I first got married we were given an assignment at church. We were assigned to teach children ages 18 months to 3 years old. Most people would be moaning and groaning, but my husband and I were excited! It became one of my favorite things to watch Nathan as he played with the little children and how they became attached to my husband, even if it was just for one day a week. One of the little children even declared him at the dad of the class. I absolutely loved seeing this part of husband and I have to admit that I found him pretty dang attractive. Talking. If we are going to watch a movie and are not talking with one another or finding out anything else about them, then what are we doing. Choosing activities that allow you to talk with your significant other, you are able to learn more about them. Time. I have to agree with the fact that it takes more than a week to get to know someone. You need to have time to get to know each other. While my husband and I were dating we had to speed up that process because I was scheduled to leave for a mission for my church and only had so long. This was a little nerve-racking, but we sped up the time part and found out as much about each other as we could. This took about 3 months to decide if I was going and 3 more to get engaged. It was little bit faster than it need to be maybe, but it worked for us. Another important topic is RAM (Relationship Attachment Model). This model shows how we should develop relationships. First, we need to KNOW someone more than we should TRUST them. We should TRUST someone more than we should RELY on them. We should RELY on someone more than we should COMMIT to them. We should COMMIT to someone more than we should have physical TOUCH with them. This is what the healthiest relationships are build on. If they weren't though, change them! Change is always possible!
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Kelli-MarieI am a junior at Brigham Young University-Idaho, studying Marriage and Family Studies. Archives
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