1. Both Being There
Men and Women are inherently different and that could be why there needs to be a father and a mother in the home and attentive to their children. It is so important for children to have both parents in the home. Because males and females have inherent differences, they are better able to help and assist their children and their needs. 2. Know-Quo Together (variety of planned and shared activities) +Talk (mutual self-disclosure) +Time = THE KNOW-QUO I can really see the importance in my own relationships of talking with another person and creating activities that allow for there to be communication between the two people. I also really love the idea of a variety of activities. If you go hiking every date, you may have an opportunity to talk with them, but it is so important to see them in many different areas and how they react and deal with situations that they may not be as comfortable with. 3. The Work of Marriage Marriage is NOT natural! It takes work to make a marriage successful. What is divine is not going to be natural because we are here to overcome the natural man. I love the concept of a supernatural marriage. If we want to be successful and become like our Father in Heaven, we too must become supernatural. 4. Transparency This means to be very clear about your boundaries. What things are only to be discussed between you and your spouse? What is appropriate for family and friends to be involved in? We need to make sure that we are not talking to friends and family about Husband and Wife conversation. If you have an issue with your spouse, TALK TO THEM. A way that I like to thing about this is don’t ever be the reason that someone would think something bad about your spouse because of something you said. 5. Pregnancy It is important for the husband to be involved in the entire process of pregnancy. Husbands should go with their wives to pregnancy appointments. Also, remember “It’s our baby.” Another concept that I found specifically important from this topic is that Husbands need to be by their wives side during the delivery, not her mom. This time is painful and stressful for those involved. This time can bring a husband and wife closer together from this bonding time. 6. Crisis and Coping Crisis can be a situation to grow even though it may be difficult. Coping is making very small adjustments in order to deal with stressors and pressure. Families that are able to healthily cope when problems arise are usually doing some of the following things: having dinner together, acceptance of individual members, talking about it, involve everyone, seek support of friends and family, affirming own family’s worth and are being involved in family activities. An addition concept that I loved from this is that if you are only worries about yourself then your team aa whole is not going to do as well. 7. Communication WORDS 14% TONE 35% NONVERBAL 51% These are the three ways that we communicate. By understanding these three types, we can see that it may be quite easy to miscommunicate if these three are not lining up with each other. When communication problems arise, it is common to find that we may have a difficult portraying what we want to say or understanding what the other person is saying. If two people are able to be very clear and concise about what they are saying and how they are reacting, then they are more likely to be successful in portraying their feelings and thoughts. 8. Councils in the Family The pattern for councils is something that particularly intrigued me. The outline looks something like this: Expression of love and appreciation Opening Prayer (invite the Spirit to reveal God’s will for your family) Discussion to consensus regarding God’s will (this should be a place for “surprising openness”) Closing Prayer Dessert! It is important to remember that during this process there may not be an answer every time, sometimes it take multiple try’s through this process. Set aside tie to discuss issues, this can we a set time each week so that every family member knows when it is and can prepare for it. It is not the decision that is made, but it is more important how you came to that decision. 9. Fatherhood and Motherhood "By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mother are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners" (The Family: A Proclamation to the World). Fathers and Mothers are given sacred responsibilities and as we fulfill those roles that we were created and designed to fulfill, the Lord will bless us. You will be more successful as you do this and put your trust in Him. 10. Purposes of Parenting To protect and prepare our children to survive and to thrive in the world in which they will live. Our responsibility to provide necessities to children, teach them righteous thing, build confidence and independence and how to take care of themselves, will fulfill the first statement above. We have to be active parents to get this done. We also need to remember that parenthood takes time and direction. These are some of the things that were most important to me! What have you enjoyed reading?
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Kelli-MarieI am a junior at Brigham Young University-Idaho, studying Marriage and Family Studies. Archives
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